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Tips For A Healthy Love Life In Your Love Marriage

July 7, 2011 By wmmomsro Leave a Comment

Tips For A Healthy Love Life In Your Love Marriage
by: Amuro Wesley

Do you want to know tips on how to maintain a healthy love life in your marriage? Of course you want, who does not? The only reasons you would not care are your marriage is as strong as ever or ending up in divorce.

Let’s assume that you love your spouse and living a healthy love relationship as your main priority.

Firstly, you need to consider your feelings of attraction and desire for your partner at first, treating your every moment of your time together as is your last.

At times, your photos, movies, TV dramas and even songs played at that very moment or of lyrics relevant to your current situation can bring back those memories subconsciously.

Secondly, you need to focus on things that you can control. You cannot change others. Not even your spouse. But you can change yourself. However to do that, you need to let go of your pride, ego and be humble in order to accept your spouse the way he or she is. It is not easy but necessary to keep your marriage going.

Thirdly, you should learn how to express yourself in healthy ways. Healthy ways as in making sure that you remain calm even when things are not going well for any reason. Many times, we all tend to express anger and frustration hoping others can sense our confusion and hurt but only succeed in hurting others.

Fourthly, be thankful to your spouse for what he or she has done for you. People like to feel appreciated and valued for who they are. By doing that, chances of maintaining your love will be much higher.

Finally, you are accountable for your current situation. No one is responsible for your plight. Not even your spouse. You can blame yourself for your faults but you cannot blame yourself by thinking you are useless and harbouring thoughts of suicide. Always remember that being responsible and having inferiority complex are two different issues which will have different impact on your future.

After reading everything I laid out for you, you should make it your routine to apply them everything everyday. Only then can you achieve a healthy love life in your marriage.

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Does Your Relationship Need Saving?

June 28, 2011 By wmmomsro Leave a Comment

Saving a relationship is possible if both partners are committed to fixing the relationship and if the relationship itself has redeeming value.  Saving it is possible if both partners stay focused and have decided they want the relationship to work.  Saving a relationship is an important thing to try and accomplish and will take a lot of work.  Keep in mind this is not impossible, no matter how bad the break up was.  Saving a relationship is not an easy task however it can be done providing that you want it badly enough to take the right action.  Doing this involves pinpointing the problems in the relationship.  Saving a relationship is a whole lot easier to accomplish while you are still together instead of when the bubble bursts and it falls apart.  Remember, that this is a process, how difficult it is depends on your ability to take the required steps to save a broken relationship.

Saving

Saving a relationship takes honest effort by both parties.  This process is hard and does take time but by thinking, following and doing these things, you will give your relationship the opportunity to blossom again.  When a relationship begins to get stale and unhappy, both partners have to get to a point where they realize that things are bad and must either commit to saving the relationship, or decide to end the relationship.  Continued commitment by both partners in this process is a key element in saving your relationship and making your relationship work.  If your relationship is in trouble and you are truly committed to saving it then there are ways to do so.  Is it worth saving a relationship if you have been struggling to keep it together for what seems like an eternity?  You don’t need advanced degrees, just a little common sense to begin saving a relationship.  The first thing you must do is figure out if your relationship is really worth saving.  Finally, you should realize that saving a relationship is an ongoing process.

Problem

Problems in a marriage cannot be avoided; you and your spouse will always encounter trials in your marriage.  To save relationship, just hang back and think what caused the argument or the problem in your relationship and have a serious think whether your partner is right and you are wrong or whether it is the other way around.  Separating the symptoms (fighting) from the problems (poor communication skills) is a crucial step in saving a relationship.  Once you have identified the core problems in your relationship, it is time to start communicating about them.  For example, if communication is a problem in your relationship, set aside just 10 minutes a day to check in with each other.  If money is a problem, work on a budget together and make cuts that will feel easy at first and help salvage your relationship.  Once you have learned how to enjoy each other again, have worked together on solving your problems, and have forgiven each other, you will have begun the process of saving your relationship.

In Conclusion

Saving a relationship is possible if both partners are committed to fixing the relationship and if the relationship itself has redeeming value.  This is an important thing to try and accomplish and will take a lot of work.  Saving a relationship is not an easy task however it can be done providing that you want it badly enough to take the right action.  When trying to save a relationship it is simply a matter of taking proper action and following a proven plan.  Saving a relationship is not the easy option, and it’s often harder than splitting up.  Saving a relationship is a monumental task and any decision to save or end it should be taken only after all relevant issues have been seriously taken into consideration.

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How To Save Your Relationship – Relationship 101 Basics To Help You Right Away

June 28, 2011 By wmmomsro Leave a Comment

Article by Will Scott

When you are looking for how to save your relationship it makes the most sense to start with the basics and build your way up. Your effort might be admirable, but if you go about things in the wrong order you may actually make things worse and drive your love interest further away, maybe even for good.

You know, the government and our parents require that we spend (and waste?) a lot of years in primary, secondary and even college classrooms. They teach us lots of basics in math, English and science; most of which we quickly forget. But something usable like Relationships 101 is glaringly absent from any curriculum.

So here is a little bit of what I call Relationships 101 to teach you how to save your relationship. It is not uncommon for a relationship to hit a rough patch, in fact it is more common than not from my observation. One problem is that many people give up too soon.

Many of these relationships can be fixed, but never get to that stage because one or both parties got angry or were hurt and never saw past that. There may have been a little too much self focus or even near sightedness; concentrating on today and forgetting to look forward a ways.

There are times, too, when only one person is interested in how to save your relationship and that just does not work very well. Both of you need to be concerned with your future together and need to be willing to work at the relationship to keep it healthy and especially to repair it.

Before criticizing your partners behavior toward you, take a look at how you have behaved toward them. We are not assigning blame here, but that’s part of it; do not try to blame him or her without checking your own words and actions.

Remember, all I ever needed to know I learned in kindergarten? It is kind of like the golden rule, do unto your partner as you want them to do unto you.

Do you want him or her to be selfish and always demand their own way? Probably not, so make sure that is not what you are doing. How often do you think of what you can do for them without expecting anything in return?

If you have been together for a while, you are probably comfortable around them. That is good on one hand, you should be comfortable with someone you love. But it is bad if you are taking them for granted or doing things you would not do in front of someone new. Think about that one.

Pretend you have just met this person and are courting their interest. How would you dress, what would you say, how would you act? Try that and see how they respond and hopefully even reciprocate.

If or when they hurt you, calmly explain it, and tell them you expect differently. Maybe they do not even realize it. Open a dialogue so that you both can work toward the same goal of saving your relationship together.

A relationship is a journey, sometimes the road is paved and sometimes it is not. Do not give up when you hit that rough patch.

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Relationship Couples

June 28, 2011 By wmmomsro Leave a Comment

I’m not that old, so I don’t know for sure, but it seems like these days we make everything so much more complicated than it needs to be. That is especially true when it comes to relationship couples seem to find it so hard to figure out the problem and many times the problem is a small and simple thing.

One analogy I often use is that of a stone wall. Think of your relationship. Every time you do or say something that hurts or annoys your partner, it’s like adding another stone to the wall.  A couple stones here and a few stones there don’t matter all that much, you can still easily step over the wall to be close to your partner.

And, if you apologize, and make permanent changes, to the behaviors that caused your partner pain or annoyance, you can even remove a stone sometimes.  

But if you do like most couples do, and you continue to add stones after stones after stones, and you don’t remove any, you will find it virtually impossible to connect with your partner.

By that point it will be very difficult and maybe even impossible to tear down the wall and have a meaningful relationship with your partner.

The trick is to make sure your wall never gets too high. How? Easy, talk. Just talk, don’t yell, don’t shout, don’t accuse…talk.

It’s very important each person in the relationship remembers that the other person has feelings too. When you are hurt and upset it’s very easy to make everything all about ‘you’.  That won’t work.

If you take the time to realize that your partner has their point of view and remember, this has absolutely nothing to do with right and wrong, it’s simply about recognizing that each person has their own view of what has happened and you need to let them express that view without getting defensive or upset, you might actually find that you are on the same page…just a different sentence!

I’ve had that very same experience. My spouse and I had very heated discussions but once we calmed down and actually talked, and listened, we realized though we were saying it in different ways we were both saying basically the same thing!

Once you come to that place it will help you take a stone out of your wall and it can also help you in the future if you can remember that you and your partner probably aren’t all that far off from each other, you’re just expressing yourselves differently.

For the most part no matter what your age, gender, religious, or sexual preferences, everyone wants to feel love, respected, appreciated, and understood. You want that and so does your partner, when it comes to relationship couples will be much better off if they never lose sight of that.  If you try to deal with your partner with those things in mind, and they do the same for you, your relationship will be much smoother, and there will be a lot fewer stones in your wall.

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